Grief & Traumatic Grief: Holding the Unbearable

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Grief is part of being human. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a breakup, a life-changing diagnosis, or a version of yourself you had to leave behind — grief asks to be felt, witnessed, and honored. But not all grief is the same...

Some losses unfold slowly. Others arrive like a lightning strike. And some are so devastating, they leave us frozen in time — trapped in a story we didn’t ask for.

Grief is a natural and necessary response to loss.

It may bring sadness, relief, anger, numbness, or moments of peace. It may move in waves, or feel stuck in silence.

You may be grieving:

• The death of someone you love
   
• The end of a relationship, job, or identity
   
• Changes in health, ability, or dreams
   
• A loss others don’t understand or acknowledge
   

There is no “right” way to grieve. There is only your way — and I will meet you there.

 Some losses are more than painful — they are shattering.

Traumatic grief happens when the loss is sudden, violent, or entangled with trauma. It may feel like the moment of loss never ended.

You may be living with traumatic grief if:

• The loss involved suicide, overdose, homicide, or an accident
   
• You witnessed the death or experienced it as a shock
   
• You’re haunted by images, guilt, or "what ifs"
   
• You can’t access memories of the person beyond how they died
   
• You feel stuck in shame, blame, or fear
   
• You’ve been told to “move on,” but your body won’t let you
   

This is not just mourning — it’s trauma. And it deserves a trauma-informed approach.

I offer a safe and attuned space to help you gently process grief, trauma, or both. Together, we will work at your pace, using tools that honor your mind, body, and soul. Depending on your needs, our work may include:

• Grief education — so you know you're not “doing it wrong”
   
• Somatic tools to help calm the nervous system
   
• Attachment-informed support for guilt, longing, or loss of identity
   
• Parts work for the younger or frozen parts of you still holding the pain
   
• Trauma processing techniques when you’re ready (like Brainspotting)
   
• Ritual & meaning-making, if that calls to your spirit
   

You don’t need to relive the pain to heal it. You just need a space where all of you is welcome — even the grief that doesn’t make sense.

You are allowed to carry your grief with tenderness and care.

You are allowed to take your time.

And you are allowed to need support along the way.

I’m here to help : Book an Appointment Here